At a Crossroads

If I were to sum up the things I’ve learned in my college degree, it would be that:

  1. Communication and media can be used as a tool for human development in all aspects
  2. We (“development communicators”), by any means, cannot impose our values or opinions to the marginalized; we are merely facilitators of development
  3. Last but absolutely not the least, the golden rule of development communication: know your audience

The last one is my personal favorite because creating person-centered messages makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Kind of. It’s like making a unique and personalized present for a friend (i.e. your stakeholders). Then again, from a different perspective, I think this is a marketing tool as well? (Correct me if I’m wrong. I don’t know much about marketing.)

  • Having said that, devcom and marketing are two sides of the same coin; communication being the coin lol
    • it’s just that you have a different purpose for each: devcom, to facilitate change; marketing, to sell.
    • both need to do research among the stakeholders/market before doing any campaigns or programs
  • I hope you learned something from this segment, as I am posting this mostly on my behalf in an effort to clear my head.

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Adjusting

[rant] I still don’t know why I’m here. It’s like my soul is experiencing sleep paralysis and instead of not being able to move my limbs, I can’t move my physical body to a different country. Before we came here, although I already had the urge to not leave, I didn’t think it would grow to be this strong. I told my mother. In turn, she told be to just book an earlier flight. Should I? Should I actually buy a plane ticket after getting my first salary?
(Very tempting.)

Besides having feelings of not wanting to be here, I’m also not liking the idea of being around my parents. Back in university (i.e. ~3 months ago), I guess I enjoyed being away from them too much? Somehow, being around them hinders me from being who I want to be, from doing whatever I want to do. It’s like my brain goes into “sheep mode”, as in, I’m going to have to live up to their standards and do what they want me to do even if I don’t want to. [bleats]

Although they claim to be supportive of what I want to do, why does it feel like they’re only supportive of what they want me to do (e.g. get a job ASAP instead of letting me take a break)? h a l p

We don’t deserve this.

painting by Johnny Morant

Science says that we’re the smartest animals on Earth because we can think critically and rationally and stuff. But because of cases about sexual harassment, rape, and other similar things, I’m kind of starting to think otherwise.

After watching Heneral Luna tonight, my sister and I decided to get coffee at 7eleven. When we were by the coffee machine, one employee stood behind me and I saw from the reflection of the coffee machine that he was checking me out.

(I don’t usually like to swear in my posts but)

What the fuck, man?

I can’t see why some men would do that. I wasn’t even wearing anything flattering — I had gym shorts on and a white, baggy printed crew neck shirt. I wasn’t worth oggling.  Continue reading “We don’t deserve this.”

Transient Friendships

Gone are the days when you’d hang out with the same people for more than a year. With different schedules and different subjects in a big university, consider yourself lucky if you get to spend time with the first few friends you had in your freshman year (or with your high school friends, for that matter).

I can see what my mother means now when she told me that college friendships aren’t like the ones we had in high school. I used to think that my friends and I would different, that we’d bond like how my high school buddies and I did. Just yesterday, I saw that we were like the bunch of people who would hang out with whoever we can, wherever we can.
Being in cliques isn’t the norm anymore.

One time, I was coming out of the lecture hall with a classmate from the same course and I saw Friend A sitting beside an acquaintance. After saying hi to them, I then saw Friend B sitting on the floor, about 5 paces away. Then I thought that if this was freshman year, Friends A and B would be sitting next to each other, talking about who knows what ‘til the doorway was clear enough for them to get inside the hall. Would the three of us still hang out if neither of us didn’t “change”? Or will things be the same, will we still be on our own, nonetheless?

I know we could still get together during breaks or after class, but we don’t anymore. It seems like we’ve outgrown each other.

How come this doesn’t happen with high school friends? We’ve spent more time in just one classroom and we haven’t grown tired of each other. Actually, I could remember that we’d miss each other if someone in the group would be absent for a day or two. I envy the ones who are still with their high school friends ’til college. If they have the same classes, they won’t have to worry about being alone and all. Plus they already have such a good relationship with them, compared to their college friends, because they’ve been together for (I’m guessing) more than 4 years.

I just wish that I’d meet someone who would be willing to spend time with me as much as I do them, y’know what I mean? What’s so wrong with wanting some good, kinda “clingy” company?